“How come I keep attracting the same kind of guys?”“How come I keep getting these losers?”“Why are they all alike?”There are patterns we repeat time and time again: the type of jobs we land, the friends we have and the people we attract in relationships. We usually think something is wrong with us in that we subconsciously keep attracting people that treat us badly, are immature and like a roller coaster in consistency in love. We feel like a hamster on a little wheel.The subconscious dynamics at work inside of us is a human explanation. There is also a spiritual explanation for this repeat behavior: karma. Or, the lack of growth and release of karma is a better way to look at it.We are on this plain to transcend our conditions. We are here to grow and transcend our limitations. This is a pretty confusing way of saying we are here to evolve into who we really are: sprits of the highest nature. Every experience we have is a gift of growth. We can see it as a challenge or an opportunity. Relationships are a path of growth.When we meet a karmic mate or are connected to someone, it is using a challenging relationship. That’s why it’s karmic! It implies growth and it will challenge you in many areas. In moving through these relationships both partners are to grow and spur growth in the other. It is when we refuse to change that the relationship begins to enter a traumatic phase.When we refuse to grow, and it is a choice, we walk away from the relationship. Things get too difficult to handle. They are acting ridiculously and we move on. How we move on is important, not that we move on.If you part with feelings of loss, anger, resentment and frustration, the karma is not fulfilled. You have not done your work. You have not grown. You can set your watch for the time the next person comes along with the exact same lesson for you. Until you can get on top of your negative feelings, it will happen again and again and again.It’s not an easy journey but you can get to a place where you pray:Bless them for what they brought meBless them for what they taught meWhen you arrive at this beautiful place of peace, you can release them without pain. At this point you have released your karma with them and can move on to a higher level of relationship. And, it will come to you.Instead of asking, “Why do the same people keep showing up?” you may want to change the question to, “What do I need to learn in order for me to move on from this kind of relationship?”