Answer: Look at it and say, “This isn’t real.”Anything in your life that is harsh, painful and full of suffering isn’t real. How, then do you explain the juxtaposition of joy and pain in your life?As radiant beings of light you arrive in this world, I believe, in your highest form, as a little infant. You‘re a bud of pure love, a form of Source fashioned in the light of unconditional love. As a matter of fact, you are love. You’re pure light and love. Then as you mature, you muck it up.No. Actually, the dark side of our human nature, what some call the shadow, gets you to do its bidding for it. It’s quite diabolically clever. Some call this separation. The two selves, one the human experience and two, the spirit, oppose each other in magnificent battles of light and dark or good and evil. Some call the darkness a disconnect from God. Whatever you call it, it’s a giant rupture of such proportions you may live a good part of your life in pain, traumatized by your human experience.And unconditional love, is not the sickly-sweet syrup from movies. It’s not a trumped-up smile and pretend that your happy vibe, either. It’s a solid knowing that you are loved by Source for even showing up here on this rock. It’s a knowing you are perfect at this moment in time, right now, warts, pimples, and all.If you are not that love you are separated from Source. You are separated from yourself. You are living a life of insane pain and suffering. Your natural state is that of happiness, love, and fulfillment. Your shadow is your mind and the negative stream of thoughts you put before yourself. Just one judgment of another human being, and you have lost yourself for a long time.Contrary to popular belief, unconditional love has no opposite. God, Source, the Divine, just encompasses it. Unconditional love is the highest vibration or frequency of energy. Energy is entropic. It pulls all other vibrations up to its frequency. How can the shadow exist then? Your mind creates it. Your mind can think anything it wants. And, it does. And, whatever you think you get in your life. You will result in whatever you choose to think.When you think with love, you co-create with Source. When you think with your mind from your human judgments of people, events and things, you co-create with the Shadow. When you think without love you manufacture fear.The shadow does not exist unless you create it. Source does not see nor experience darkness because it does not exist. Live in love. And, when you do, you bring us all up to that level with you.