I’m never letting them do that again to me!I’m setting boundaries!I’m done with them!When people around you behave like temper tantrum throwing toddlers, you want it to stop immediately.I don’t blame you for feeling that way! It’s uncomfortable. It’s not fun. And, it’s hurtful because they make you the target of their angst. Their emotions are extreme as they project their issues onto you. Your emotions become extreme as you stand in the shock of their words. Once over, you decide that is never going to happen again. You decide to set boundaries. You decide this will never happen again.Setting boundaries is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s a fear response to another’s attack.
- Do you not call them?
- Do you go silent?
- Do you not invite them to your party?
- Are they out of the group?
- Do you talk about what happened with your other friends?
Did you miss the compassion in this scenario? Bless them. Simply, silently, easily, bless them. This is the strongest, wisest response you can have. Send them a blessing, send them a prayer. Use compassion as your response.This is not being a spiritual wimp. It’s a position of the utmost strength. Bless them and allow them their path. It has nothing to do with you. It really doesn’t. You can even bless them because they chose you for your strength, to spew their venom.Being a spiritual wimp is allowing yourself to be spewed at time and time again. You simply bless them and move on as you focus on your own work and personal growth. Your vibration changes. You move to other levels of frequency. And, in that alone, your strength increases. It keeps them at your vibrational boundary because they feel it.You don’t have to thump your chest in response to a painful situation. Yes, your human instincts kick in and want you to strike back at the threat of being hurt. Your instinct to set boundaries is like a strike back at them. It’s an emotional response to an attack.Your spiritual boundaries are infinitely more powerful than your human boundaries. Change your energy. Change your vibration. Change the company you keep, without saying a word. Blessing someone is compassion at its highest vibration. It’s the strongest position you can come from in any situation.